Hey parents!
Part of what I get to do as the Youth Family Minister at Trinity is share resources and conversations about topics relevant to our community following Jesus. Children are able to intentionally or accidentally access porn more easily now than ever before. Research suggests that most students are first exposed to porn between 8-10 years old. We need to educate students in this harmful addictive behavior.
Here are my four big takeaways for hosting conversations around sex and porn:
- The Earlier the Better. Don’t let your child have their first conversation about sex and porn in the middle school locker room. But it is never too late. Now is better than not at all.
- Girls need these conversations too. Porn is not gender specific. Technology gives everyone equal access and it is just as important to talk to your daughters about sex and porn as your sons.
- Focus on teaching healthy relationships, healthy living, and listening to how God wants people to live. Telling students “It’s bad” might keep them from seeking it out in your house but teaching them how to live in healthy relationships will carry on for their whole life.
- It is going to happen. Your child is going to be exposed to porn. Teach them how to recognize and react to it.
I recently heard a quote that said, “If something is worth doing, it’s worth doing poorly.” These conversations are worth it. They might not go well, and it might not be very comfortable. Thankfully you are not alone. Trinity is blessed to have caring staff members who will talk, pray, and grieve with you. We will not be shocked by what you have to tell us.
I have included links to a few really excellent resources below. Hang in there parents, what you are doing is sacred work. Christ goes with you in every conversation.
Knowing God,
Be with these parents and families as they endeavor to raise up this young generation of Jesus followers. May they be bold in starting difficult conversations with their kids. Give them an extra dose of courage and care as they open the door to vulnerable topics. Grant their kids a listening ear to this teaching. May it be something that grows in their hearts and minds. Wrap your arms of grace around the parents and kids when things do not go well. Remind them of your consistent love and presence that will not be taken away. Help us all to walk with you in our lives as a community following Jesus.
Amen.
**Porn is not just an issue for adolescents. We know many adults struggle with porn usage. XXXChurch is a great place to start. Ask for help. Your church is here for you.